Grief is not a problem to be solved. It is a passage to be honoured.
Most of us were never given a room slow enough, or a listener honest enough,
for the actual size of what we lost.
I work with women in the long arc of grief — the recent and the very old, the named and the unnamed,
the deaths and the not-quite-deaths that nobody else seems to remember.
In a sentence
Grief work is the slow practice of letting a loss be the size it actually is —
in the body, in the life, over the time it really requires, with someone who is not in a hurry for you to be done.
Who this work is for
You may be in fresh grief — the kind where the days have stopped having a recognisable shape.
Or you may be carrying old grief — a death your family did not let you mourn, a miscarriage no one named,
a parent who is gone in every way except medically, a friendship that ended without a funeral.
You may be grieving something most people would not call a loss at all — a country, a calling, a body, a faith,
a marriage, a dream of a life that did not arrive.
Whatever you are grieving, the work does not need it to be socially legible. It needs it to be true.
The deepest grief is not always the loudest. It is the grief that was never permitted to be the size it is.
What this work looks like
Sessions are 90 minutes, online, one-to-one. We work with three pillars:
Embodied presence. Grief lives in the body — in the chest, the sleep, the appetite, the breath. We meet it there, not above it.
Honest reflection. Clear mirrors, without performing strength and without manufacturing meaning before meaning is ready.
Lived integration. What we work with comes back into your real week. Grief that is met begins to move.
Losses we often meet
The death of a parent — recent or long ago, named or kept underground.
Miscarriage, stillbirth, abortion, infertility — the griefs that often get rushed past.
The death of a child — held with the time and care it requires, for as long as it requires.
Ambiguous loss — estrangement, dementia, disappearance, a person who is and is not gone.
The end of a marriage or partnership — grief that is not allowed to be grief.
The loss of a body — illness, chronic conditions, post-cancer life, the body that no longer is the one you had.
The loss of a calling, a country, a community — the deaths that are not deaths.
Old griefs that are surfacing now — because life has finally made room.
What this is not
So you know before we begin
This is not stages-of-grief theory applied to your life.
This is not crisis intervention. If you are in acute psychological crisis, please reach out to clinical support.
This is not a deadline by which you should be "over it." The work does not have an end date.
This is not silver-lining work. We do not look for the gift in your loss before you are ready.
Ways to begin
Most women begin with a free 20-minute discovery call. From there:
A single 90-minute session — €140. For one loss that is asking to be met.
A four-session cycle — €420. For continuity through the early months, or a difficult anniversary.
The Threshold Year — €3,500, by application. Six months for women whose grief is also a larger passage. Read the year →
Common questions
Yes. Miscarriage, stillbirth, abortion, infertility, and the long unnamed griefs of fertility transitions
are often where this work begins. These losses are frequently rushed past or never named at all,
and the body remembers what the calendar dismissed.
Yes. Ambiguous loss is some of the hardest grief to carry because it is not socially recognised.
Estrangement, the slow loss of a parent to dementia, a friendship that ended without a name —
the work honours it as the loss it is.
There is no schedule. Grief moves in waves, often re-arrives in anniversaries and unrelated triggers,
and changes shape over years. The work meets it where it actually is, not where someone else thinks it should be.
It overlaps but is not clinical. This is initiation work — grief as a passage to be honoured,
not a symptom to be resolved. It complements but does not replace clinical support.
That is welcome. The room is built for it. Tears are not a problem to be managed.
From the practice
Most of the women who come to me with grief have already been told, by someone, in some way,
that it is time to be done. They have been performing being done for months, sometimes years.
What they need is not advice. What they need is a room where the loss is allowed to be the size it actually is.
That is what I keep. The room. The time. The honest mirror. And the long, careful company.
— Nina
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